When people used to answer my question of, “What would you like for Christmas?” – with a response that they didn’t want a thing, my first reaction used to be one of disbelief. How could you not want anything for Christmas? A new gadget, something to wear, something to eat or watch? I just didn’t understand. I used to think they were being extra crafty…that I’d have to think even more carefully about how to surprise them, to find them something super special. It never crossed my mind that they were being genuine and they simply didn’t want anything. But these days, after learning more about leading a simpler lifestyle, I understand. These are just some of the reasons that I don’t need any Christmas gifts this year.
I’m happy with what I already have – I’m lucky and I know that. Living in the western world, we take so much for granted and sometimes we grow complacent. I’m so privileged to have a home of my own, a little family I love, clothes to wear and enough food in the kitchen. I don’t *need* anything else.
I’ve spent way too much time decluttering possessions that I’ve built up over the years to want to add even more stuff to my home. I’m starting to get my home to the stage that I want it, and I just don’t have the energy or desire to do it all over again.
Those ads that say you need “X,Y and Z” to make it a perfect Christmas just don’t ring true any more. Behind the sparkle and the facades, are clever advertising campaigns and strategies to sell us a lot of things that we just don’t need. One particular news article that grabbed my attention recently, and changed the way I look at things, talked about the “diamond invention”. Read more about that here.
My memories of Christmases gone by don’t involve stuff – if you think back to childhood Christmases, what do you remember? What are your fondest memories? I remember the games with family, the simple fun games. Charades, word games, word searches, carol concerts, a church service on Christmas Eve (staying up late was so exciting!)….The time, the attention, the love that was shared. With the exception of one Sindy (a Barbie-like doll with a pink ballerina outfit that I adored), I can’t really remember many of the presents I was given.
That’s not to say I won’t be gifting – I’ve got children and it’s only natural that I want to make it special for them. This year, alongside the games console we’ve been saving up for, I’ll be trying to incorporate more experiences into the holidays. We’ve planned a special meal at their favourite restaurant, a theatre trip, trampolining and winter walks. It doesn’t need to cost a fortune to create memories.
What I’ll be hoping for this year is simply to relax a little, to finish that book, to explore the beautiful region that I live in. To be woken up at stupid o’clock to see if Santa has visited, to be defeated on FIFA 18 or some other game that I have no idea how to play (to the hilarity of the kids); and to head out on Christmas morning to make our regular visit to see family. The roads quiet, the radio on, memories being made. As the saying goes, “You can’t wrap up moments like these.”
I’d love to hear what you’re looking forward to this Christmas. Have you made lots of plans? I wonder what your favourite thing is. Please comment below if you can.
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