Christmas this year was a difficult one, as sadly most of our small family have been ill. Instead of leisurely wrapping gifts on Christmas Eve morning, most of the day was spent consulting with doctors and nurses, having lengthy conversations on the telephone, and trying to stay calm during a 30 mile ambulance ride. The following days were tough, with three family members being ill. It wasn’t the Christmas that any of us expected but I’m pleased to say that at the very least we spent it together and everyone’s health is now improving.

If 2017 has taught me anything, it’s that life is generally more unpredictable than you ever imagine it could be…and whilst planning for the future is important and uplifting and exciting; it’s also important to enjoy and appreciate the everyday.

And resolutions? I know they can motivate people to achieve some really amazing things . . . but this year they’re not for me. I know that if I spend my hours ticking things off lists and trying to lose weight / earn more money / get a better job or be more sociable then I wouldn’t be any happier. Instead, I’m going to try to keep going with the flow, building on things that are important to me, day-upon-day….whether it’s January or November, summer or winter. These are just some of the things that I’m focusing on, and thinking about, right now…

It doesn’t need to be perfect – so on Christmas Eve, the kids played way too long on their tablets, ate Pringles for breakfast and pretty much did what they wanted. They were okay, we were okay, and it meant that I had time to be there for the family members that needed support. Having things perfect and clean and tidy and decluttered – or whatever your goal is – is lovely (and something I try and achieve)…..but it’s not worth stressing over when there are other demands on your time.

Try to forget past hurt and accept help gracefully when it’s offered – A family member, who doesn’t normally help very much, cared for the kids twice over the holidays and all was well. Sure, we’ve had more upset and tears over the years than I care to think about, but it’s good to know that differences can be forgotten when things go wrong.

Reach out and just listen, sometimes that’s all that’s needed – it’s hard not to try and problem solve when faced with difficulties. We all want to make things better, to rush about doing this and that, to help. Sometimes, I’ve learned, these last few weeks, all that’s needed is a patient ear and time. 

Find a quote that inspires you and write it somewhere you can see it. This is a quote that inspires me, but I’m still working on it. It’s just something I try and keep at the back of my mind when things are going a bit awry. 

“Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and a forgiving heart one who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them.” ― Marvin J. Ashton

I wonder if you’re working on any resolutions right now. Perhaps you have great will power and are on the road to achieving something wonderful. I’d love to hear about it, please comment below if you can. And I hope that you’re having a lovely 2018 wherever you are.

If you enjoy reading quotations, then you can find some more of my favourites here – Beautiful quotes about Simple Living and Minimalism

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29 comments on “Why I’m Not Making Any Resolutions This Year …”

  1. So sorry to hear about your Christmas. I hope everyone’s health continues to improve. I agree on no resolutions, I’m just setting myself a few goals. Xx

  2. I have no resolutions. I have no “word” for the year. And that’s okay. Finally, it’s okay that I choose to just continue on my chosen path while it suits me and doesn’t harm anyone else. I am going to continue to edit my life and my space and my time and my finances to suit me and my loved ones.

    “The World is Run by Those Who Show Up”
    (from a bumper sticker that used to cover a hole in my bathroom door)
    I just plan on showing up for my life.

  3. Pringles for brekkie sounds good to me! Great post, I love that you’ve included that things don’t need to be perfect (so important to remember!) I need to write some quotes and put them up this year as I did that a few years ago & it was such a positive influence when I’d see them – thanks for the reminder!

  4. I’m so sorry to hear you’ve had illness in your family lately. (An ambulance? Sounds serious.)

    “Leave people better than you found them.” What a glorious thought! Here’s a quote I found yesterday because I sometimes find it difficult to say no: “I allow myself to set healthy boundaries, to say no to what does not align with my Christian values, to say yes to what does.” -Leo Horbachewski, tweaked a little to fit my faith.

  5. What a Christmas! These things certainly give us perspective and the true meaning of the season rings home.

    You know I think we’re all perfect in our own way and eating pringles for breakfast on Christmas Eve, really isn’t major in the grand scheme of things. I hope your family are on the road to recovery and that you get to enjoy some special time together illness free!

    Happy new year to you, here’s to a healthy and happy 2018 😊

  6. My Christmas wasn’t nearly as tough as yours, but there is always some stress involved, and I just don’t like the pressure that comes with New Year’s resolutions. So I don’t make them anymore, and I feel so much better for it. Happy New Year! x

  7. May your days ahead be brighter and healthier. I’m going to keep putting one foot in front of the other, and pray for daily strength to live according to my values. I have been working on incorporating better habits into my days, and with some coaching from a friend, and more recently two days’ help from family members, have been able to tackle some long overdo purging.
    “Go where you’re celebrated, not where you’re tolerated!” Is a favourite quote of a good friend. It’s good advice. As I move up in age, I embrace my Mom’s saying: “If you’ve got your health, you’ve got everything.” She lived to be 100!

    • What a lovely, thoughtful comment Jan. Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing. I totally agree with your mom’s saying, everything else pales into insignificance if we don’t have good health … wishing you and your loved ones a healthy and happy 2018 x

  8. It sounds like a stressful Christmas for you but pleased to read that everyone pulled together when it mattered most. I love the quote, especially the leaving people better off than when you find them. Thank you for sharing.

  9. Hi, sorry to hear about your illnesses I hope that you are all feeling better now, nothing wrong with a little naughty food at the wrong time especially over Christmas. Indeed it doesn’t need to be perfect as long as everyone is happy thats all that counts. I hope you a have a fab 2018 #MMBC

  10. Sorry to hear your Christmas didn’t go to plan – I hope everyone is the mend now though; sounds like it was pretty serious in some cases!

    Personally I don’t make resolutions or goals anymore at the start of the new year. Whilst I do love the fresh feel of a new year, and all the positivity that comes with that, I try to maintain that year round and check in with myself and my loved ones continually so that we stay on our path as and how we intend to. I don’t know if that makes sense…

    I love the quote that you’ve shared and I’m off to look at the other post of quotes you’ve shared too.

  11. So sorry to hear you had a tough time over Christmas. I hope everybody is feeling better now.

    Such a lovely quote too. I won’t be making resolutions either. Like you, we live for the now, even more so after my husband’s heart transplant. I think it’s the best outlook to have on life!

    Thanks so much for sharing with #MMBC. Have a fab weekend x

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