Christmas this year was a difficult one, as sadly most of our small family have been ill. Instead of leisurely wrapping gifts on Christmas Eve morning, most of the day was spent consulting with doctors and nurses, having lengthy conversations on the telephone, and trying to stay calm during a 30 mile ambulance ride. The following days were tough, with three family members being ill. It wasn’t the Christmas that any of us expected but I’m pleased to say that at the very least we spent it together and everyone’s health is now improving.
If 2017 has taught me anything, it’s that life is generally more unpredictable than you ever imagine it could be…and whilst planning for the future is important and uplifting and exciting; it’s also important to enjoy and appreciate the everyday.
And resolutions? I know they can motivate people to achieve some really amazing things . . . but this year they’re not for me. I know that if I spend my hours ticking things off lists and trying to lose weight / earn more money / get a better job or be more sociable then I wouldn’t be any happier. Instead, I’m going to try to keep going with the flow, building on things that are important to me, day-upon-day….whether it’s January or November, summer or winter. These are just some of the things that I’m focusing on, and thinking about, right now…
It doesn’t need to be perfect – so on Christmas Eve, the kids played way too long on their tablets, ate Pringles for breakfast and pretty much did what they wanted. They were okay, we were okay, and it meant that I had time to be there for the family members that needed support. Having things perfect and clean and tidy and decluttered – or whatever your goal is – is lovely (and something I try and achieve)…..but it’s not worth stressing over when there are other demands on your time.
Try to forget past hurt and accept help gracefully when it’s offered – A family member, who doesn’t normally help very much, cared for the kids twice over the holidays and all was well. Sure, we’ve had more upset and tears over the years than I care to think about, but it’s good to know that differences can be forgotten when things go wrong.
Reach out and just listen, sometimes that’s all that’s needed – it’s hard not to try and problem solve when faced with difficulties. We all want to make things better, to rush about doing this and that, to help. Sometimes, I’ve learned, these last few weeks, all that’s needed is a patient ear and time.
Find a quote that inspires you and write it somewhere you can see it. This is a quote that inspires me, but I’m still working on it. It’s just something I try and keep at the back of my mind when things are going a bit awry.
“Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and a forgiving heart one who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them.” ― Marvin J. Ashton
I wonder if you’re working on any resolutions right now. Perhaps you have great will power and are on the road to achieving something wonderful. I’d love to hear about it, please comment below if you can. And I hope that you’re having a lovely 2018 wherever you are.
If you enjoy reading quotations, then you can find some more of my favourites here – Beautiful quotes about Simple Living and Minimalism